Are You She That He Findeth, Understanding?

Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding (Prov. 4:7).

We all want an understanding man, one that is attentive to our emotions and our needs, a good listener, and can express his emotional needs as well; however, are we understanding? Understanding is a two-way street. We cannot receive understanding if we are not willing to listen, pay attention, and assess the situation before verbally responding. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, understanding is the knowledge and ability to judge a particular situation or subject; an informal agreement; a willingness to understand people's behavior and forgive them. And according to the Bible, understanding is intelligence, discretion, skillfulness, wisdom and the ability to reason.


We are not born with understanding. Understanding comes with life experience and the willingness to sacrifice oneself for the edification of others. For example, if you have been waiting all week long for your man to take you to your favorite restaurant on your birthday, only for that day to arrive and find that your man has succumb to the flu, but he insists that you both go out anyway. What would you do? Would you take his advice and go anyway or would you understand that he doesn’t feel well, without him having to take a rain check? This is where wisdom comes into place – having the ability to reason. If you choose to take a rain check and go another day, how do you think that will make him feel because you chose to put his needs before your wants? 

Ladies, let’s practice understanding with each other:

1.     Assess your girlfriend’s mood before inundating her with gossip; she may need an ear for you to listen and a shoulder to cry on.

2.     When she tells you about yourself, don’t get defensive, hear her out without interrupting.

3.     STOP talking for once and pay attention to body language – a person can say a whole lot without saying anything at all.

XOXO,

Jay