Do You Know What You’re Working With?

A week ago, I was at the mall people watching and noticed a woman grabbed her man’s arm when another woman walked passed them, as if to say, “He’s taken.” It didn’t appear that the other woman was interested in her man, but the gesture of her grabbing her man’s arm unintentionally insinuated, “I am insecure.”

Many women have often made the mistake of gripping their man’s arm when another woman walks by or into the vicinity. Ladies, do you really know what you’re working with? And I don’t mean in just physical appearances. There will always be another woman prettier than you, so therefore, you shouldn’t hang all your security into your looks because eventually you’ll become insecure when gravity and fine lines start to take place.

God made you fearfully and wonderfully from the crown of your head to the sole of your feet. There are other things about you than just your looks that make you attractive. Another woman may be prettier than you are, but she may not be more attractive than you are to the person of interest. Just because you are pretty that doesn’t mean you’re attractive. So the next time those feelings of insecurity start to shift in, write a list of characteristics that you have that make you attractive and place the list in view of a reminder of what you’re working with.

Remember, if you don’t know what you’re working with and that you have more to offer than just your looks, then how is he supposed to know and treat you as such?

XOXO,

Jay

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Are You Pretty and Fine?

A pretty woman knows she’s attractive and a sight for a sore eye; however, one should not put all her interest in her looks. It is okay to spend a dime at the Mac counter to enhance what you got, but you’re biggest investment should be on your character. You can spend thousands of dollars on Botox, plastic surgery, and make-up, but keep in mind that beauty is fleeting.  

The beauty of a woman is reflected in her character. If someone had to describe your personality, what would they say about you?  It does not cost a dime to invest in being trust worthy, purposeful, diligent, forgiving,  patient, kind, loving, unselfish, grateful, resourceful, charitable, uplifting, and faithful – these undying characteristics of beauty are free, but are worth far more than any ruby, gold, or diamond ring.

The next time you’re at the make-up counter, ask yourself, “Am I investing just as much or more in enhancing my character than looking pretty on the outside?”  If we spent more time on investing in characteristics that are sustainable and provide longevity, the prettiness will take care of itself. Besides, you just don’t want to pretty on the outside and ugly on the inside, that just makes you pretty ugly.

So ladies, let’s be pretty on the outside and fine on the inside.

XOXO,

Jay


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Courting Vs. Dating

Society has completely done away with the term courting, nowadays, you only hear partial of the word when referencing to basketball. Men and women no longer court each other, they by-pass traditional dating and go straight to conventional dating, which means anything goes…sex, booty calls, or just the simple, “I am not looking for anything serious, I just want to have fun.” However; with this notion in mind, women are left hung out to dry. Women are innately emotional thinkers. We may go along with the no attachment sex and tell ourselves the lie that “I am okay with just sex,” but deep down, we really like the guy we’re sexing, so we will work on changing his mind. And when we find out that we CANNOT change his mind, we are left emotionally damaged. Ladies, we have got to stop repeating these same mistakes and go back to the basics of being pursued!

If you have grand-parents that were raised in the south, depending on your age, you’re probably familiar with the term courting. And if your grand-parents are still married, more than likely, they’ve courted. Courting is the initiation of a friendship by the man, in order to seek the approval of his companion. Courting is not a commitment; however, it does not involve sexual activity, flirting, or any sexual impromptus. During this stage, the man and the woman are learning to see if they’re compatible in developing and maintaining a FRIENDSHIP prior to dating.

During the dating stage, the man and woman are romantically involved, which is NOT equivalent to sex. They make plans to go on formal dates, but this is a period to see if both parties are romantically compatible. If a man is serious about a woman, it is during this period that he will verbalize his feelings of wanting to make a commitment.

Stay tuned for the upcoming book, And a Courting We Go.

XOXO,

Jay

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