February is
the month of love, so If you’re single, you may be disheartened by the fact
that you’re not attached to a significant other, while you watch other women
receive gifts of love, you may feel alone, but do not allow your temporarily
loneliness to cause you to settle for, “Loose Change.” Remember, your
loneliness is only temporary.
I have
friends who are unhappily married with children or they are in unfulfilled relationships
because they decided to settle for, “Loose Change.” Many of my friends rushed
into marriages or relationships because they were lonely or they were getting
older and didn’t want to be by themselves and not risk ever having children.
But one thing I notice that they all have in common is that they are miserable
because they settled for temporary happiness or the second best thing. My dad
once told me that when you date or marry a man, he’s supposed to enhance your
life spiritually, physically, and mentally and vice-a-versa, meaning, if you
were happier or doing better off without him, then he’s not the man for you.
Those same
attached friends don’t understand why I am content with being single,
temporarily. Because of my past relationships, I am very hesitant on who I
allow into my heart, so I am not in a rush to get married and nor am I looking
for a man to marry. I get asked a lot by younger
women and girls, being in my early thirties, when am I going to get married and
have children or do I want to get married and have children? I respond with,
“In God’s timing.” Of course I want to get married and have children one day,
but I am no longer bothered by my biological clock ticking because I have come
to learn that when God has a purpose for your life and you follow the path that
he has set out for you, everything has its perfect timing, including love. Love
cannot be rushed, forced, or planned. The biggest mistake that you could make
in your love life is to go looking for love. Let love find you. When you go
looking for love, you end up with, “Loose Change,” someone whom you’ll be
unhappy with later because you chose them and not God. God does not give
temporary happiness and leave out the joy. When he chooses someone for you, he
judges their heart and intentions, while we judge appearances and their
actions, but not knowing their motives behind their actions. Stop short
changing yourself. What God has for you, is for you.
In the
meantime, enjoy being single and following the adventurous path that God has
set out for your life. Eventually, He’ll put someone in your path who will turn
out to be the man beyond your dreams and you will be ever so joyful that you
waited and did not settle for, “Loose Change.”
XOXO,
Jay
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