A friend of mine, Nathaniel Haley, pastor of United Christian Missionary Baptist Church, once
told me that when a man of God seeks to marry a woman, he seeks for a
"wife" and not just a woman that will hold the title of a wife by
law.
Just because a
woman is married that doesn't mean she is wife material. Thus, the Bible says,
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the
Lord" (Proverbs 18:22), implying that with all the women in the world
walking around and the ratio of women to men is 2 to 1, men are still faced
with the challenge of finding a suitable woman to wife.
As women, we often
make the mistake of making a long list of qualities that we want in a husband
without really asking ourselves if we hold any of these qualities.
According to a survey conducted by Forbes and MSN, following is a list of the
top traits that women said they want in a mate and some food for thought:
1. Financial
stability - you may be able to match his financial ability or perhaps you make
more money than him, but your pockets are like a bottom less pit.
2. Trust worthy -
can you be trusted to run the affairs in your household and follow through with
work projects or are you a busy body, meddling in the affairs of others while
your life is up in array?
3. Kindness - are
you genuinely kind to others without expecting anything in return? What would
your family members, close friends, and coworkers say about your acts of
kindness?
4. A sense of
humor - are you always nagging and complaining when things don't go your way?
5. Intelligence -
intelligence doesn't only consist of book knowledge, but also how you go about
applying that knowledge. Smart people aren't smart because they've earned all
As in school and graduated cum laude in their class, they're smart because most
of their choices in life out way the bad.
6. Passionate -
what have you done with the God given talents and gifts that God has bestowed
upon you? Are you using them to serve God and better others? Or are your
talents and gifts self-serving?
7. Understanding -
are you quicker to listen and hear others out before you respond, so that you
can gain a better understanding?
8. Romantic - Do
you go out of YOUR way to please others on their birthdays or other significant
events that matter to them or do you do things for them that will please you?
9. Sense of style
- would your style of dressing be an embarrassment to others if they were seen
with you?
10. A handsome
face - are you approachable, always bearing a smile or does your face look like
you've been sucking on a lemon?
Humans are
innately selfish, we aren't born with wifely characteristics; they’re something
that we learn through experience and develop through a relationship with God.
The world has its own standard of what a wife should be, but God established a
formula for women to live by in order to become a virtuous wife. Throughout the
next few weeks, we will closely examine the different characteristics,
according to the Bible that makes a wife.
Remember ladies,
you don't have to be married to become a "wife." You should already
contain the characteristics of one when your future-to-be-husband finds you.
Keep in mind that the characteristics you want in a husband, you require them
before you both even say I do.
XOXO,
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