The Masquerade Ball

Ladies, why do we encourage each other to wear masks? We may not intentionally do this, but we do this subconsciously with our words and behavior. She thinks she’s cute. There is nothing WRONG with thinking you’re attractive, as long as you’re not comparing yourself to other women. If you don’t think you’re attractive, then who else will? Girl, did you see what she had on? Maybe girlfriend was having a rough day and didn’t have time to do laundry or is not as fortunate as you are to have an array of a wardrobe. Her hair looks a mess. She was probably just having a bad hair day and was making her way to the hair dresser or suffers from an illness, which results to hair loss. Why is she with him when he treats her like dirt? She probably doesn’t feel worthy to be in a loving relationship.

If we are not saying it, then our behavior and body language displays it. When we make assumptions or say hurtful things to each other, we just tear each other down. As women, we need all the edifying and uplifting comments we can get, just to make it through the week. Being a woman is hard enough, but we make are roles more challenging when we force each other to wear masks by pretending to be someone that we’re not in order to pacify the next woman’s self-esteem issues. We cannot grow and reach our potential if we continue to allow others to make us reach for a mask.

Rule of thumb: the next time you find yourself thinking or saying discouraging thoughts about a woman you work, associate, or attend church with, pay her or another woman two genuinely positive comments for every one of your negative thoughts.

XOXO,

Jay


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New Hires Getting Up to Speed: For Recent Hires of All Levels

“Managers often complain about the new-employee learning curve,” suggesting that they often have to follow-up with new employees to ensure that they are navigating their roles successfully (thebuildnetwork.com). If you’re a new hire on the job and you want to get up to speed, but not sure where to start, here are a list of suggestions to take into consideration that will get you notoriety very quickly by managers and employers (thebuildnetwork.com):

• Make it your business to research the ins-and-outs of the company such as, the company’s mission and goals, its consumers, product and strategy information, and key players, even if this information doesn’t necessarily pertain to your job description.
•   Ask for a tour of the facility prior to your start date.
•  Ask which key people you need to connect with that are relevant to your role and schedule time to meet with those people.
•  Inquire about expectations and culture of the company.
• After a week on the job, request a meeting with your employer or manager to discuss adaptation to your role.

Remember, being proactive on the job, even if the task isn’t relevant to your job description, will quickly get you considered as a candidate for promotion.

XOXO,

Jay


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Questions to Ask during Your Next Doctor’s Visit

Hey ladies, today’s post are some essential questions that you should ask during your next doctor’s visit. Some of these questions could be life-saving if they are addressed earlier on:

If you’re doing everything you possibly can to lose weight, but the pounds are just not coming off, then you might have a thyroid problem

·         Could my weight be a thyroid issue?

Different health and medical issues can factor in frequent trips to the OBGYN such as age, weaken immune system, and previous abnormal pap smears.

·         How often do I need to get a pap smear?

Just being a woman, your body needs supplements period; however, as we get older and are more active, our bodies require additional fuel, other than food to keep us functioning.

·         What supplements should I take?

If you’re like me and have chronic mood swings when aunt Flow comes to visit, maybe your doctor can recommend some techniques or supplements to help you fight irritability.

·         Is there anything I can do to combat PMS?

Even if your family doesn’t have a history of breast cancer that doesn’t mean that the twins should go unchecked.

·         When should I be screened for breast cancer?

If you still have your reproductive organs or of child bearing age, then it’s essential that your ovaries are healthy. Ovarian cancer is a silent killer and by the time that symptoms are noticed, it’s usually too late.

·         When should I get screened for ovarian cancer?

So when is your next check-up?

XOXO,

Jay


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Nature’s Own Beauty Line

Hey ladies, we would all like to have beautiful skin and hair without the expensive cost and harsh ingredients that are too hard to pronounce. Following, are a few tried and true products that my girlfriends and I have used that are inexpensive and are from nature’s own line of beauty that will have your skin and hair glowing in no time:

·         Trader Joe’s Organic Virgin Coconut Oil- You’ll find this product on the aisle with the cooking oils, but it works magic on your skin, nails, and hair. I generously apply the coconut oil to my skin after I stepped out of the shower. Make sure you apply the oil to your hands as well, it helps strengthens the nails and makes them grow longer. You can also use this product as an oil treatment for your hair.

·         Non-concentrated 100 % Cranberry Juice- If you have acne prone skin like me, then this juice is the solution. It has a “significant amount of salicylic acid,” (MedlinePlus) the same ingredient that is found in over the counter products that are used to combat acne.  I drink the non-concentrated cranberry juice from Trader Joe’s. I will mix 8 oz. of juice with 16 oz. of water. I drink the mix once a week and twice when I am under stress- when acne is most likely to show up. “Drinking cranberry juice regularly increases the amount of salicylic acid in the body” (MedlinePlus). In addition to combatting acne, the cocktail also produces a natural radiance to your skin.

·         A lemon for the face –Dorothy Enriquez, Editor in Chief of DOT Magazine, maintains her beautiful glow with lemons. “Lemons do wonders as a natural chemical peel. They renew the skin and help generate cells. A lemon peel wakes up your face and invigorates it without the harshness of an actual chemical peel—which leaves your face splotchy and peeling while you wait for the ‘new skin’ to arrive. I rub the lemon across the kitchen counter to prep its juiciness. I slice it in half, squeeze it a bit so the juice comes to the top and then I rub that all over my face, including the pulp. I’m careful to watch for my eyes, of course. I let it sit until I feel my face tighten and then I wash it off with my usual face wash. I moisturize, and then go to bed. This is a practice I try to do once a week to maintain clear skin and a natural glow.”

·        Water and lots of it! There is no better skin, hair, and weight treatment than water. When drinking over the recommended (8 cups) daily intake, water can provide an array of benefits such as, weight maintenance, tightens the skin to keep it moisturized, and adds moisture to your hair. The more active you are and the older you get, the more water your body needs. 

So ladies, if you’re on a budget, have really sensitive skin, or would just like to try some of these beauty treatments in addition to your regime, treat yourself to nature’s own beauty line. It has plenty of benefits.

XOXO,

Jay

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An Unhealthy Woman Cannot be A Productive Woman

Women wear many hats: wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends, and the list goes on. We are always giving of ourselves, thus it’s important that we take better care of our health. Being productive requires a lot of maintenance to the physical body. If we are always on the go, then we must see to it that we’re eating balanced nutritious meals, taking a multi-daily vitamin, replenishing the body with water, getting enough sleep, getting at least 30 minutes of physical activity every day (Department of Agriculture and the Department of Health and Human Services), most importantly, being in tune with our bodies. If you don’t feel like your usual self and notice the feeling worsens over time such as, a headache, then it’s time for you to see your doctor, this could be a sign of an underlying medical problem (http://www.prevention.com/health/health-concerns/when-see-doctor-your-headachepage=2). Don’t put it off and tell yourself that you will schedule an appointment during vacation. Your health is more important than any to-do-list.

Even if you do feel healthy, it’s still important that you schedule regular appointments with your doctor.

You can’t be the best version of you if you fail to take care of your health. If the wear and tear on a car needs regular maintenance, what do you think wear and tear on the physical body will do if your health goes untreated?

Every week, strive to meet a healthy goal to leading a more productive life such as, setting a scheduled bed time to ensure you get at least 8 hours of sleep. Each week, add another healthy goal.

XOXO,

Jay


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Surround Yourself with Angels

Hey ladies, every woman has to have a few mottos or words of wisdom to get her through the week. So just in case you don’t, here’s a few:

Adopt a good attitude – you can approach anything in life by having an optimistic attitude, even when things in your life seem not to go as planned or expected. Embrace the attitude of optimism and ask yourself, “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?”

No negativity or pessimism- avoid negative people, thoughts, or actions like the plague because negativity can be contagious and will keep you from moving forward in life.

Genuine is always key- be your absolute self! Do not allow people to make you put on a mask just so they can, “handle” or “deal with you.” It’s not your fault that they develop a complex every time you’re around. You are not their issue and weren’t created to pacify their personality dilemmas.

Everything worth doing in life, approach it with enthusiasm, even when pursuing an unappealing or unattractive occupation such as a janitor; be the best janitor that you can be and your reputation will precede you.

Love people that society shuns or considers to be outcasts because they need love the most.

Smile even when you don’t feel like it. There is ALWAYS a reason to smile, even on your worst days.

What angels do you surround yourself with?

XOXO,

Jay

A Woman Interrupted

Have you ever had a week where you walked out of the house feeling like you forgot to put on a piece of clothing, later to realize you forgot to put on a bra, then locked your car keys in your car, went into the bank and realized that you locked your purse in the car along with your keys, cell phone, and wallet? I did. This is what I call a woman interrupted – your mind is too busy and occupied with things, other than focusing on what you’re actually doing at the current moment, which therefore can evolve into stress.

Stress is a snare that sneaks upon us like 5 pounds of fat, and then later you’re asking yourself how did I end up in this situation? No matter how much we consider ourselves to be super woman or super mom, we’re not. We’re human. We cry, we hurt, and have emotional, spiritual, and physical needs that need weekly restoration. God did not design us to be robots, so therefore, we need to stop, take a moment, and gas up. Commit at least 30 minutes of your time to devotion, prayer, and meditation with God. Don’t merely pencil God into your schedule, but make him a priority. Stop making excuses that you don’t have time. Remember, God is the creator of time; if you give him the first of your time, then he will ensure that your time is not interrupted with unnecessary problems.

XOXO,

Jay



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