The Domino Effect

Someone recently posted on my Facebook page a t-shirt that read, “I hate my baby’s daddy… but you chose him.” At the time, this quote read to be funny, but it rings so true and has so many consequences. Ladies, when you wake up in the morning, you have the freedom to choose the outlook of your future, so choose wisely. The decisions you decide to act upon or not act upon is either an addition or a subtraction from your future. As young women, we often tell ourselves that, “I only live once,” so why not go and live it up? However, our choices have domino effects that not only impact us, but affect everyone in our lives, including our future children.

You are granted with the opportunity to choose the father of your child – this is a BIG responsibility. So the next time you choose to roll around in the sack, ask yourself, “If I get pregnant, can I see this man being the father of my child? Will he be present in my child’s life? Does he set good examples? Is he someone I would want raising my children? Will he help support my children emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and financially?”  There are so many children that are suffering dire consequences behind the choices their parents made.

Remember, children repeat the same examples that are set before them. You cannot set expectations for your children to live up to when you didn’t live out the examples before them. 

XOXO,

Jay


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You Have the Right to Be Joyful!

Did you know that being joyful is a choice that you choose to make every day? Every morning before you step out of bed and leave your house, you can choose to put on a joyful spirit regardless of what you’re going to face throughout the day. If someone cuts you off on the freeway, smile and be joyful. If you get a flat tire on the way to work, making you late, smile and be joyful. If someone cusses you out at the mall because you accidently bumped into them, smile and be joyful. Do not allow anyone or anything to rain on your joy.

According to Sonia Gallagher, J.D., Holistic Executive Life Coach, living a joyful life comes with benefits:

1.       Your anxiety and stress level will decrease

2.       Your body can heal itself of diseases

3.       Your positive energy is infectious and will draw others to you

4.       Your job performance will increase

5.       Your energy will increase

Remember, the next time an uneventful moment presents you, ask yourself, “What attitude will I adopt in order to adapt to the circumstance at hand?” Your attitude will determine the final outcome of your situation.

And besides, life is too short to be anything, but joyful.

XOXO,

Jay


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Knowing When to Close the Curtain

Consider yourself among the blessed if you still have your childhood friendships. As we are forever changing, so do our relationships. Some friendships continue to blossom until death do you part, while others slowly die and that’s okay too. Just because your girlfriend was your friend then, doesn’t mean she’s still the same friend now. Here are a few red flags signaling it’s time to close the curtain on your friendship:

1.       She’s always making subtle put-down remarks about your character, personality, physical appearance or talents. She’s been your friend for this long, so she shouldn’t have to, “Talk at you” or make snickering remarks behind your back.

2.       She makes EVERYTHING a competition: Who got married first, who had children first, and who lost the first ten pounds of baby weight. These significant moments shouldn’t be about competition, she should be supportive and happy to be a part of them.

3.       If you’re the one always making the effort to call or schedule outings.

4.       You knew that your friend was flirtatious, but flirting with your man is crossing the line.

5.       She brings out the worst in you. You find yourself doing or saying things that you normally wouldn’t say or do when you’re with her.

6.       You start to notice every time she calls, she needs a favor.

7.       Your conversations are one-sided. Both of your schedules are hectic, so when you do talk, she only has the time to talk, but never listen.

8.       If you brought 1-7 to her attention and she gets defensive.

Remember, in life some friendships are not meant to last forever. They are for a brief season, in which you needed to learn, develop or grow from. Just be thankful for the good girlfriend you had then and be open and optimistic to meeting new friends.

XOXO,

Jay

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Learning to Be Content

Learning to be content in undesirable circumstances can sometimes be quite challenging, but it can be done. As women, we strive to accomplish many hats in life such as, becoming a wife, mother, and a successful business woman. We find ourselves establishing timelines when to have these goals accomplished and become quite disappointed when we don’t meet our deadlines. We often lose focus on the purpose that God has established for our lives when we look at our peers and start to make comparisons to their lives: Why am I not married and with a family by now or why have I been passed up for a promotion or missed out on career opportunities? When we start comparing our lives to our peers, which can lead to self-pity and wallowing in our circumstances, we will make unwise choices out of desperation.

God knows the desires of every woman’s heart and He wants us to learn to be content in any given circumstances that He allows to come our way. God has a purposeful and enriching life for every woman, that is, every woman who decides to let God order her steps. When you let God lead you down the path that He has for you, the ultimate message that you send to God is, “I totally and completely surrender to the plans that You have for my life”.

XOXO,

Jay



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The Masquerade Ball

Ladies, why do we encourage each other to wear masks? We may not intentionally do this, but we do this subconsciously with our words and behavior. She thinks she’s cute. There is nothing WRONG with thinking you’re attractive, as long as you’re not comparing yourself to other women. If you don’t think you’re attractive, then who else will? Girl, did you see what she had on? Maybe girlfriend was having a rough day and didn’t have time to do laundry or is not as fortunate as you are to have an array of a wardrobe. Her hair looks a mess. She was probably just having a bad hair day and was making her way to the hair dresser or suffers from an illness, which results to hair loss. Why is she with him when he treats her like dirt? She probably doesn’t feel worthy to be in a loving relationship.

If we are not saying it, then our behavior and body language displays it. When we make assumptions or say hurtful things to each other, we just tear each other down. As women, we need all the edifying and uplifting comments we can get, just to make it through the week. Being a woman is hard enough, but we make are roles more challenging when we force each other to wear masks by pretending to be someone that we’re not in order to pacify the next woman’s self-esteem issues. We cannot grow and reach our potential if we continue to allow others to make us reach for a mask.

Rule of thumb: the next time you find yourself thinking or saying discouraging thoughts about a woman you work, associate, or attend church with, pay her or another woman two genuinely positive comments for every one of your negative thoughts.

XOXO,

Jay


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New Hires Getting Up to Speed: For Recent Hires of All Levels

“Managers often complain about the new-employee learning curve,” suggesting that they often have to follow-up with new employees to ensure that they are navigating their roles successfully (thebuildnetwork.com). If you’re a new hire on the job and you want to get up to speed, but not sure where to start, here are a list of suggestions to take into consideration that will get you notoriety very quickly by managers and employers (thebuildnetwork.com):

• Make it your business to research the ins-and-outs of the company such as, the company’s mission and goals, its consumers, product and strategy information, and key players, even if this information doesn’t necessarily pertain to your job description.
•   Ask for a tour of the facility prior to your start date.
•  Ask which key people you need to connect with that are relevant to your role and schedule time to meet with those people.
•  Inquire about expectations and culture of the company.
• After a week on the job, request a meeting with your employer or manager to discuss adaptation to your role.

Remember, being proactive on the job, even if the task isn’t relevant to your job description, will quickly get you considered as a candidate for promotion.

XOXO,

Jay


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Questions to Ask during Your Next Doctor’s Visit

Hey ladies, today’s post are some essential questions that you should ask during your next doctor’s visit. Some of these questions could be life-saving if they are addressed earlier on:

If you’re doing everything you possibly can to lose weight, but the pounds are just not coming off, then you might have a thyroid problem

·         Could my weight be a thyroid issue?

Different health and medical issues can factor in frequent trips to the OBGYN such as age, weaken immune system, and previous abnormal pap smears.

·         How often do I need to get a pap smear?

Just being a woman, your body needs supplements period; however, as we get older and are more active, our bodies require additional fuel, other than food to keep us functioning.

·         What supplements should I take?

If you’re like me and have chronic mood swings when aunt Flow comes to visit, maybe your doctor can recommend some techniques or supplements to help you fight irritability.

·         Is there anything I can do to combat PMS?

Even if your family doesn’t have a history of breast cancer that doesn’t mean that the twins should go unchecked.

·         When should I be screened for breast cancer?

If you still have your reproductive organs or of child bearing age, then it’s essential that your ovaries are healthy. Ovarian cancer is a silent killer and by the time that symptoms are noticed, it’s usually too late.

·         When should I get screened for ovarian cancer?

So when is your next check-up?

XOXO,

Jay


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